Frequently Asked Questions about counselling at The Relationship Hub
My partner won’t come with me; can I come on my own?
Yes, we can work with you, about your relationship or anything affecting it, even if your partner does not wish to come.
I have had an affair, but my partner does not know; will I have to tell her/him if we come to counselling?
What you tell your partner is your decision. We will not disclose any information to your partner, or anyone else, without your agreement. The only exception to this would be if we think a person is at risk of significant harm and we would discuss this with you.
I am no longer in a relationship but there are things which still bother me about my previous relationship, can counselling on my own help me?
Yes, a lot can be learned through counselling, about your patterns of behaviour in personal relationships, which can be very useful for future relationships and help you avoid repeating the same behaviour.
If The Relationship Hub is a charity why do I have to contribute?
Relationship Hub is a charity, which means it is a not-for-profit organisation. We get some small grants from some local authorities but this only the source of a limited amount of funding. This funding allows us to offer some reduced cost appointments when necessary.
I can’t get babysitters can I bring my children with me?
Unfortunately, we do not have the resources to provide childcare and it is not recommended that children are with you during your counselling. We do however provide counselling by telephone appointment or skype which means you can speak with a counsellor at a time to suit you in your own home.
How soon can you see me?
We will offer you an initial consultation usually within a week of you contacting us. We aim to offer you further ongoing appointments within two weeks of that first appointment.
Frequently Asked Questions about Family Counselling
Do we all need to come?
Family counsellors will work with any combination of family members including individuals.
Do we always meet together?
The counsellor may suggest meeting people individually as well as in the family group and any member of the family can request an individual meeting.
How does it work?
Family counselling helps everyone to have a voice and to listen to each other on neutral territory. Families often find that in this kind of atmosphere, they can resolve difficulties that seem overwhelming at home.
How long do we come for?
Each session is approximately 50 minutes in length. There are usually around 6 sessions.
What sort of issues can be helped with family counselling?
Family counsellors will work with any issues which are troubling a family.
Among usual types of problems are different parenting styles, parenting teenagers, living with adult children, living with separated families and children coping with divorced parents.
FAQs about Sexual Therapy
How can sexual therapy help us /me?
Sexual therapy can help individuals and couples, through helping you talk comfortably about a very private matter and offering you a sexual therapy programme suitable for your needs.
What is a sexual therapy programme?
A sexual therapy programme includes a full assessment about the type of sexual difficulty followed by a programme of work, carried out at home, to create new sexual patterns. You will never be asked to do anything in therapy other than talk with the counsellor.
How long will it take?
Because sexual therapy requires you to do the work at home, it will depend a lot on how much gets done at home. However it is a longer process than counselling, so there can be up to 12 sessions.
What happens if I just get too embarrassed to talk?
Sexual therapists know that this is a topic which many people will find embarrassing. Our experience is that after the first couple of meetings this ceases to be a problem.
What happens if I don’t get on with the counsellor
If you decide that you cannot work with the first counsellor you meet you can request a change of counsellor.
Frequently Asked Questions: Counselling for Children and Young People
Who is the service for?
The service is for any young person between the ages of 5-25 who is adversely affected by family and parental problems, relationship issues, problems at school or problems around gender, sexual orientation and sexuality, and who could benefit from talking to an adult who is not directly involved.
How can counselling help my child or young person?
Counselling can help by providing a responsible adult with whom the young person can talk about their difficulties without fear of making things worse at home or worrying the parents.
Can my child be seen on their own?
If your child is 10 or under, we need first to meet with the parent or guardian to obtain written consent for counselling and will then meet with the child if they are happy to do so, or with the parent if that is their preference.
If the young person is 11 and over, they will be seen on their own.
Can my child be seen at school?
The Relationship Hub works in 10 secondary schools and colleges across the 5 North Manchester boroughs to provide counselling service, so do ask at your local school if they have our service or check with our office.